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Manipulation can be divided on the point of application of forces: the strong hand, the weaknesses and the illusion.
The simplest technique is the pressure on the weak spots of object. So use this technique even children. This method requires some knowledge about the object. This makes it impossible to use it immediately, as any manipulation. But there is always a general weaknesses associated with public morals, education, environment, which can be described as synonymous pairs: ' female beauty ', ' male power ', ' man -host ', ' man - defender '. However, the use of such simple pairs too wiped to a certain point ceases to operate if a person does not sklerotik. Therefore, for a more subtle manipulation is worth your time and explore your object better.
Reflective collect information about the object is in the family. Weaknesses in everyday communication and annoying so it's best to remember. My mother remembers that my son - twit wrote his wife that her husband did not score a couple of nails to hang a picture that I had to call for the elimination of petty plumbing leaks that a holiday drunk and spent the weekend ' sick '. Less reflective remember that the collection of information is independent of human desires, and therefore the application will be the same. For example, almost everyone was in a situation where the parents remember childhood antics with friends or partner. It is foolish and ashamed. And there is no such manipulation - just burst. But the manipulation, of course, is: here the banal desire to maintain control of the situation shows it is reflexive and the results are usually negative.
Conscious collection of information takes a lot of time and requires care. But the weak and strong, each side gets a label and shelf. Professionally engaged in this, for example, psychologists. Communicating with them, you realize that most of them are not able to help people, but almost all are able to convince him that they had helped. It's funny that they themselves psychologists, at least some believe that this is the cure. Well, leave them alone.
The attack on the weak place is almost always causes irritation. This does not mean that the goal is reached. But the residue left after one day and shoot. Example: a woman knows that her husband works in a little house, and feels guilty about it. It is appealing to its low load (' nichrome still at home you do not do ') makes him do some work (' junk made ', ' go to the store ' and m. n. ). Since any relationship are usually regulated in nature, unscheduled request will be rejected if you do not use manipulation. With manipulation, it will be done, but sooner or later, her husband burst into conflict, or feedback manipulation. Of course, in this case it was possible to apply a more subtle manipulation and get his but without consequences in the form of irritation. But more on that later.
The obvious advantage of the weak through the manipulation of space - there are almost 100% operation. Feelings of guilt and a sense of inferiority - one of the strongest motivating factors. This is perfectly known in closed systems like the army or prison. Zagnobit rights and to achieve absolute obedience with blows to the weak spots quickly and easily. Minus - a possible uprising. But before he even need to live. The result here it is - is already on a platter.
There is hidden, and the greatest danger of this type of manipulation. The relative ease of use makes the result more and more similar to the method, making the critical threshold of the object is reduced, and patience quickly becomes full.
Antithesis of such manipulation is the impact on the vanity. Or as they say, underscore the strengths of object. The complexity of this method lies in the fact that talking good about a person we do not teach. From childhood we are taught to lie and cynical about any direct praise. Therefore, without criticism, we treat only the praise of fools and children. And if praise does not go straight, you can use an indirect.
Indirect praise can go through the results of labor, or by comparison. For example, ' My dear, the picture is so well hung, you could not do the same also in the living room? ' . Galin husband so crookedly hung pictures should be sent to you to learn. '. In the first case of classic praise, drummed into their heads since childhood, when praising your ugly crafts in kindergarten. To resist it is very difficult, and the trick here is not feeling. And to be honest, and waiting, like a lump of sugar ball once brought a sneaker. In the second case, there is criticism, but it flies away, and when someone is bad, we are well: in a relationship can give plus minus - is not like math.
Professional work with the strengths of psychological education issues. If you are fed direct praise, and you ate it and the person who issued it is not an idiot and not a baby, you're dealing with a psychologist or those who are familiar with the theory. It seems that there is even a whole new trend in psychology, when it is necessary to praise the man to cure his complexes. To give direct praise just can not be taken as insincere. But here's a little trick. Peter performed some work and called to the chief.
- Peter, you're just a boy, you're done his job perfectly!.
- Come on, boss - Peter realizes that the boss is now podebet.
- Now you'll get a trip to Muhosransk, where, I hope you show yourself as well - that's podebka.
Now imagine that the boss took courses on personnel management.
- Peter, you're just a boy, you're done his job perfectly!.
- Come on, Chief.
- You really fulfilled it very well. It is recognized by all.
- Wow.
- I have a personal request to you. Now Muhosranske painted a problem.
- Of course, the boss will.
The chain is very simple. 1) This work was good and it is necessary to confirm t. e. fixed strength of the object. 2) Object certain that the work is done well, but doubts disappear only after trustee reports reinforced the secret message ( everyone knows - it is impossible to verify this information ). 3) The problem is applied so that the decision to give the object. As before, the object was removed to a new level of emotional state, the result beyond doubt.
Every asshole in the soul of King Kong: if you give way to a giant ape, it will sweep away everything in its path. This is often used by experienced girl's wide open eyes brought to mind a lot of it is mentally healthy males before. By the way, maybe some of them are doing it quite deliberately.
Consider Apply the manipulation by the strengths of the business. In big companies can afford to professional psychologists, so it is standard to manipulate the situation to the staff in order to establish contractual relations between management and employees. A typical case - a delay of salary. In a small office, if the owner of an idiot - just goes howling and bursting at the office of parts. And in the howling quickly isolate large, and all other work as before, but still protect the public your company.
This is done very simply. First, you need to convey to staff that they are the best in its class. It is unlikely that any employee believes that to fulfill its duties poorly. It captures the strong side. Next message queue trust. Usually it is ' a situation as you can see what '. At this point we can not shed a tear. Then follows a secret message ' but soon, I myself was on the board of directors, we will provide a loan '. The secret - hence, no one confirmed the message and passed on the secret that no one said - that in itself is funny, when it pronounced the team a few tens or even hundreds of people. Well, after that for which all assembled: ...
A friend of mine made an accountant, he worked for free. That's what I understand, the technique.
And what's the problem with small companies? . The relationship of trust it was originally. Therefore, it is very difficult to increase degree of. Secret message in the absence of secrets are almost impossible. Trust may, but will be weaker due to low contrast with the usual. Therefore, in this case podebka looks rough and cynical, and therefore causes a lot of irritation. In fact so often in small offices as there is no discipline of the class.
Remained variant of the illusion. Illusion - a variant of manipulation, based on what is not. T. e. the basis of a made-up problem, and then imposed a series of actions aimed at the solution. Example: you have to make sonny go through the book, therefore, to inform him that my grandmother put into one of them a thousand rubles - will, may take a. The only condition of the book and then put on the shelf. A little exaggerated, but the result is obvious.
Often the problems are far-fetched to manipulate public opinion. So talking about nuclear weapons in Iraq. Weapons and is not found, but the country is in ruins, and the oil concession in the hands of BP.
Let's see how it is applied in the case of delayed wages. Make a simple thing - prove that the workers destroyed company. To do this we need to calculate the efficiency of each employee and poke her nose. Logically, it is clear that the profit - the value of a multifactorial and can not depend only on the individual labor. But when the figures are placed on the table, which clearly shows that Bob - raspizdyay and the volume of orders from him and through him, just down, you feel ashamed Vase. So, it is possible and Vasya on his own to offer, and cut zarplatku.
Illusion - almost always shifting problems on other people's shoulders. It is created out of thin air, but never disappear without consequences. It's like calling an evil spirit - you can call, but to drive them back into the bottle will require considerable effort. So call it just like that - recklessness, which would end badly for you.
How can I apply to the illusion of personal use? . Enough to string up a couple of times and the most piquant moment to stop and go into the kitchen to smoke. The reason for the stop, create a simpler, the possible experiments do not insist - just the idea podkinte. The rest of you make sense of guilt.
Tired of cooking? . I want a car? . Need a new phone? .
Cons illusions - may not work. Either will work, but not so. For the correct operation needed total control, and the ONET is not always possible. And besides, the illusion - it is always an illusion and may be disclosed. And then the losses could be worse than the acquisition of.
And a few words about that, as to resist the manipulations. Actually, a good well- prepared to resist the manipulations can not be. But it is possible to calculate and apply a counter-attack. Counterstrike is output on the relationship vzaimoobyazuyuschie. You are asked to be patient with the salary - you are asking for patience with the appearance of the work on time. All you want to travel to Muhosransk, you ask for a few days of vacation after. Well, t. Dr.. Usually it stops, or manipulation, or transfers it to the usual relationship.
The best way to avoid manipulation - the termination of relations. But this is not always possible. Then we have to limit yourself in communion with the manipulator. If it is - an unattainable luxury, it is possible to apply a simple technique of distraction - focus at the time of the active phase of the manipulation on the other ( reading a document, viewing a form of eye and counting jackdaws ). Another good idea is valid termination. When a stupid and absurd remark or phrase built a replica of torn on the side of it is harmless. My brother once unknowingly did this trick with a cool head when she chided students:.
- That such children and obtained janitors, plumbers. (there is a blow to a weak place - all the children want to be astronauts and firefighters ).
-. and mathematics teachers. ( yuk, manipulation destroyed more hysterical ).
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